Party Etiquette
What is expected of our members:
1. Call to say you are coming
You will receive your invitation a short time before the party. Do remember to call the host during the week before if you want to attend. The numbers at some parties may be limited if the house is small; you cannot just turn up on the night. When you call, your host will suggest a plate of food they would like you to bring. When you leave the party don’t forget to say goodbye and thank you.
Also, please remember that our parties are for couples not singles - your partner must accompany you.
2. Come Prepared
Couples who prepare themselves for a party are more likely to have a successful time. Beforehand, talk honestly with your partner about the people you are attracted to and your hopes for the evening. Discuss any difficult issues in advance. Establish your own ground rules, like who is going to drive and what time you intend to leave, and whether you are going to remain together or separate. Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Pack a small overnight bag for spare clothes, toilet bag, towel, etc. If you have arranged with your host to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows may be necessary.
3. Arrival and Departure.
Arrive and depart as discreetly as possible. If your dress is revealing or suggestive, please arrive covered up, or change clothes at the party. Remember, the members who offer their homes for our parties have to get on with their neighbours – we should not give them any difficult behaviour to have to explain away. Park your car safely and considerately.
4. Be clean and fresh
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body, un-fresh breath or dirty clothes. Even if you shower and perfume before leaving home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you get there. Many couples change into their party clothes once they have arrived at the party.
5. Get Acquainted
Once your hosts have welcomed you, try to feel as at ease as you would at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their party circle.
6. Be Friendly and Courteous
Our parties are for all members. Be friendly to people, whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with them. This helps create the right atmosphere and avoid bitterness. You never know, on another occasion you might feel differently about them, or find that you share other interests.
7. Do as you would be done by
People who are successful in the swinging scene have respect for themselves and the people they come in to contact with. They are thoughtful and put others first. They will remember that we all feel insecure and vulnerable at times, particularly, those new to the scene. They will do their best to make the situation fun for everyone.
8. Respect the feelings of others
Remember that not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that the people you are with are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If they are not comfortable, stop and listen; don’t press on. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous, but suggest to your partner that you return downstairs. If someone is upset, discreetly alert the host. But always bear in mind that not all people feel the same about things that happen during sex.
9. "No" means "No"
If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not, accept this with grace. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation.
10. Only do what is fun for you
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to do anything that you are not comfortable with. You are a swinger to enjoy yourself – do only what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
11. Alcohol or drugs
Do not take illegal drugs or get drunk at parties. Most of us have a drink or two at parties to help us relax. However too much tends to offend others, as well as hampering your ability to enjoy sex. If you have to over-indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle and will not fit in with the people in our group.
12. Enjoy yourself
Most importantly, have a good time; you will not be welcome if your are in the middle of a row with your partner or sit on your own in the corner grumpily. The parties are for us all to enjoy ourselves, act out sexual fantasies, and explore our sexuality with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.
13. Don’t Intrude
The sight of other people having sex turns on most of us. However, some couples find it intrusive if someone stands looking at them being intimate. Do use your judgment and only watch those who obviously enjoy it, and find it erotic to be watched. Show respect for others couples' privacy. Remember, that it is important for some couples to be alone when they make love, and never join in unless invited.
14. Practice Safer Sex
It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. Be aware of the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases. Couples Only encourage the use of condoms and provide a supply in each bedroom. We are aware that not everyone likes them, but if your partner for the evening asks you to wear a condom, you must accept without question.
15. Member Privacy
It is not unusual to exchange names and phone numbers at parties, but do not pass these onto to others without the agreement of the couple concerned. Never talk to an outsider about the parties you have attended at member’s houses, and never reveal its location.
WARNING: members who ignore this etiquette may be asked to leave the group.